Sex is both everywhere — and strictly taboo at the same time. We all exist because of sex. Our entire society is obsessed with it. And yet, we know surprisingly little about it. What we do know often comes from strange, unreliable sources and is misleading or simply untrue.
Sexuality includes an enormous range of topics and goes far beyond penetration. Sexual health encompasses orientation and preferences, boundaries and communication, knowledge of our own body and our relationship to it, sexual physiology, and the ability to allow ourselves pleasure and actually experience it. It also includes our capacity to open up to another person, our openness to play and experimentation, our experiences, wounds, and traumas, our education and access to information, as well as the broader cultural and social context in which we grow up and live.
While male sexuality has been the subject of research and attention for many years, female sexuality has largely remained wrapped in a veil of mystery, shame, embarrassment, ignorance, pain, and a sense of “wrongness.”
Things are slowly beginning to change. In some countries, a woman’s right to pleasure is finally entering public conversation. But much of the world still operates under the assumption that female sexuality looks like what we’ve seen in porn: instant arousal, oral sex for men, fast and aggressive penetration, and a loud orgasm achieved within minutes.
In the absence of reliable information, our reference points — besides pornography — tend to be TV shows and magazines. And while Sex and the City was groundbreaking (and wonderful!), it didn’t exactly tell us the truth about female sexuality either.
Based on this collectively created image, many of us try desperately to live up to the role of the “perfect lover” — easy, fast, passionate, moaning… and are left alone with feelings of dissatisfaction and failure.
“What’s wrong with me if I don’t get aroused quickly or often? If sex doesn’t interest me, bores me, or hurts? If I don’t reach orgasm…?”
On top of that, many of us still believe that our sexuality begins with our first sexual experience and ends with childbirth. That sex only exists with another person. That it can only be beautiful during the first couple of years of a relationship — and then inevitably fades.
But sexuality belongs to our entire lives. It doesn’t have to end with a long-term relationship, childbirth, or menopause. Our needs change, just like our bodies do — over the course of our lives, with the seasons, throughout our cycle, and even from one day to the next. This very fluidity is one of the most beautiful essences of femininity.
It’s time to open the topic of female sexuality in a completely new way — with respect for the female body, female experience and behavior, our lived realities, and the social taboos and cultural narratives that have, for centuries, demonized and shamed everything connected to the female body and pleasure.
Why?
Because a person who is connected to their body and open to pleasure is content — and that contentment naturally flows outward. They are in touch with a fundamental source of energy and creativity. They know what feels good, what they want and need, and they are not afraid to take care of it. Someone who feels truly fulfilled in their sexuality has an extraordinary capacity in every other area of life — work, caregiving, relationships, free time, and beyond.
Historically, people who were deeply connected to their bodies and sexuality were often burned as witches. And while burning at the stake is no longer a threat in our world today, the fear of reconnecting with our sexual nature still lives within us. We fear not only the reactions of others, but also what we might discover within ourselves.
Female wisdom doesn’t live only in the mind — it lives primarily in the body, and sexuality is a huge part of it. Exploring intimacy with yourself means giving this wisdom space to move, to be felt, and to guide your life not only rationally, but intuitively and creatively — led by where your body takes you.
When someone is truly connected to their body and sexuality, the chemistry of their entire system changes. Real physical shifts profoundly influence how we move through the world. How do you want to be here — for yourself and for others? Do you want to come from a place of fulfillment, satisfaction, and pleasure? To be among those who dare to cross the boundaries of what is “not talked about” and “not done”?
Allow yourself to explore what feels good for your body. Play with that beautiful energy. Question and dismantle the myths that have constrained us for far too long. Open yourself to the possibility that pleasure is your fundamental birthright — and watch how your life begins to change simply by allowing yourself to experience it. Become part of a revolution that restores innocence and naturalness to our sexual essence, and shows that it’s time to shed layers of shame, guilt, and the belief that our pleasure doesn’t matter — that we exist to take care of everyone else, that pain or disinterest are normal parts of sex, and that sex only happens the way we’ve seen it portrayed in porn.
