Historically, female sexuality was celebrated and revered in many cultures. Over time, however, it found its way onto the list of things considered inappropriate, sinful, or even dangerous. In the 16th century, a major shift took place: scientific exploration of the human body moved into the spotlight — unfortunately, primarily the male body. The female body was long viewed merely as a smaller version of the same. While the detailed anatomy and function of the penis were described as early as the 17th century, the anatomy of the clitoris wasn’t properly explored and published until around the year 2000. It’s therefore hardly surprising that female embodiment and sexuality remain surrounded by mystery and myth.
What matters, though, is that things are changing. Not only are we beginning to better understand our biology, but it’s becoming increasingly common for each of us to explore questions like: What does sexuality mean to me? How does my body work? What brings me pleasure? Step by step, we are reclaiming our right to a truly healthy life — one that includes pleasure.
Many long-held beliefs are finally coming to light, and both science and lived experience are uncovering the truth. Which common — and less common — myths about female sexuality are still circulating today and subtly shaping how we think and feel?
1. Most women suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction.
Research shows that a large number of women experience some form of sexual difficulty — low desire, challenges with arousal, pain during sex, or difficulty reaching orgasm. Some studies suggest this applies to more than 60% of women. But considering all the factors mentioned above, the question arises: is this truly a medical issue? What if part of the problem lies in our lack of understanding of female anatomy and sexuality? What if many of these “issues” naturally fade once we begin to understand women and their bodies — and start following them instead of porn-based scripts?
2. Sex is more important in relationships for men than for women.
This myth is closely tied to our ingrained ideas of what sex is supposed to look like. It may seem “natural” that women aren’t eager for a quick encounter after brief touching of breasts and genitals — especially if their partner barely asks how they’re doing. But that says nothing about their desire for intimacy. Studies show that women long for intimate experiences just as much as men do, and that their desires and fantasies are equally diverse. What’s missing, in many cases, isn’t desire — but sexual fulfillment, often due to limited knowledge of one’s own body and how arousal actually works.
3. Penetration alone is enough for women to reach orgasm.
This myth is widespread — and deeply frustrating for many women. The reality is quite different: only a small percentage of women reach orgasm through penetration alone. Most need additional forms of touch or stimulation of the clitoris, which is the primary organ of pleasure. It’s important to remember that there is no “right” way to reach orgasm. Every body is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. This myth not only places pressure on women, but also on their partners, who are often left with unrealistic expectations of what sex should look like.
4. A woman’s desire for sex ends after childbirth.
Childbirth is a major milestone that transforms a person on every level. So much changes in a very short amount of time — but that doesn’t mean the need for intimacy disappears. With sufficient support, care, a sense of safety, and time for the body to heal, a new and entirely different dimension of sexuality can emerge within a partnership.
And these are just some of the many myths that continue to shape how we think about female sexuality. But this is not where the journey ends. In the next article, we’ll explore more misleading beliefs — and uncover the truths that lead to a deeper understanding of the body and its needs.
